Pat DeYoung - Relational Psychotherapy
 I began practicing psychotherapy in 1986, after finishing an MSW at the University of Toronto and a year of psychotherapy internship at the Toronto Institute of Human Relations.  I continued as an intern at TIHR for two more years, and returned to TIHR to work as a Director of Training from 1989 until 1996.
In my years as a psychotherapist and clinical social worker with the Toronto Salvation Army Family Services,  I met many consumer/survivors of the mental health system.  I learned from them how to listen with empathy and respect to terribly difficult life stories.  I saw how this careful kind of listening can calm acute symptoms of anxiety and foster inner strength, even when the wounds of abuse and neglect run very deep.
 I have been in full-time private practice since 1996.  I work mostly with adult individuals and with couples.  Quite a few of my clients would consider themselves part of the LGBTQ community.  I think of myself as a general practitioner of psychotherapy, moving comfortably between individual and couple work, both short-term and long-term, with a wide variety of presenting problems and issues. 
The hallmark of my work, constant across the modalities of my practice, is that I do my best to understand my clients in terms of their own experience, offering my genuine presence and empathy as we work collaboratively.
 In 1992, I was part of a group of therapists who founded the Toronto Institute for Relational Psychotherapy (  I still teach there, and I also supervise psychotherapists and clinical social workers in the community.  In 2000, I completed work for a PhD in Philosophy of Education from the University of Toronto, linking contemporary educational and psychoanalytic theories.  I’ve written two books, one called Relational Psychotherapy: A Primer (first edition, 2003, current edition 2015), and the other, also published in 2015, called Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: A Relational/Neurobiological Approach. 
Because I believe that therapists must know themselves well in order to practice well, I have spent years in my own personal psychotherapy, which has also been its own reward.  Because I believe that therapists should not practice in isolation, I seek consultation regularly. 
I'm a Registered Psychotherapist and a Registered Social Worker. With my memberships in the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario ( and in the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers (, I embrace my commitment to professional Codes of Ethics, professional Standards of Practice, and  professional Complaints and Discipline processes.